A new TikTok trend, dubbed the ‘pink tote lid moments’ online, has users sharing the uncomfortable moments with their parents from childhood.
The trend began after a TikTok user called Jaycie shared a clip of herself crying, explaining that her mom yelled at her, demanding that she put the ‘goddamn pink tote lids in my f***ing bedroom.’
In the uncomfortable clip, which has since been deleted, Jaycie recounts the situation, saying she was drying her hair after having a shower in the bathroom when her mom started yelling and banging on the door.
She recounted: ‘So I’m like, “What?” and she goes, “You wanna have a f**king spa day? Go to sleep! I need help.”‘
The video was filled with comments from concerned users.
Viewers then immediately started sharing their experiences with ‘pink tote moms,’ ranging from parental disagreements and misunderstandings, to both physical and emotional abuse.
Dozens of users have said their childhood consisted entirely of ‘pink tote lid moments.’
The moment was discussed by Whitney Goodman, who is a licensed marriage family therapist, and who said these ‘pink lid tote’ moments are common in kids that seek separation from their parents.
‘When I talk to adults who estranged from their parents, they have no shortage of these ‘pink tote lid moments,” she shared in a video.
The therapist continued, saying they are in fact very ‘common’.
‘These moments where it’s like the parents just unleashes their anger on the kid, they have absolutely no ability to restrain themselves when they are frustrated,’ she continued.
She went on to say parents who are guilty of this often make their kids feel ‘stupid,’ listing some of the common ways they do this.
‘[I’ve found] people are shocked when you speak to your kid like this growing up, you act this way toward them, call them names, belittle them, lash out for making a small mistake or moment and then wonder why they don’t want to spend more time with you,’ she shared.
‘This is one of the most common themes that I hear from these adults,’ she explained.
‘Hundreds of adults that I speak with every single month being like: “my parents just really acted like they didn’t like me, they acted like they didn’t wanna be around me,”‘ she shared.
Whitney went on the say it could get to the point where a individual is treated so ‘horribly’ during really innocuous interactions that they end up scared of their parents.
‘If you’re a kid or an adult who has experienced these moments with their parent, I want you to know that it makes sense why you’re upset by this,’ she explained.
‘We should not be normalizing this in our households and in our family,’ she concluded the video.
According to a survey released by the BabyCenter parenting experts, 32 percent of parents want to be more supportive than their parents were when raising them.
They results found that moms today also feel that they are more informed and mindful when it comes to raising their children than their parents were raising them.
