I am a mother to a 16-year-old boy and, for the life of me, I cannot understand why so many parents are furious at Bonnie Blue.
Put your pitchforks down, I say. This may sound controversial, but I would rather my teenager lose his virginity to a professional like Bonnie than at a drunken party.
Here’s why.
I have spoken to my son about sex – yes, it was a bit awkward for both of us – and I was shocked by just how unprepared he was. He actually told me he planned to use the pull-out method when he loses his virginity.
Sorry, mate. I’m not ready to be a grandmother just yet!
Thankfully we have the kind of relationship where I was able to explain to him why that wasn’t an adequate form of contraception. No one wants their son to end up with a baby after a one-night stand, I told him. Or their daughter, for that matter.
I educated him about condoms, consent and STDs – and while I hope he listened, I also know he’s at the age where he’s more likely to heed the advice of his mates or TikTok than his mother.
And here’s the thing: say what you want about Bonnie, at least she covers the bases.
The young men in Bonnie’s videos all have to give verbal consent, they can withdraw at any time, and they cannot be under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
The fact the action is being filmed actually makes it safer: everyone is accountable and no one can get away with anything dodgy.
To me, that’s much safer than being out-of-your-mind drunk in a bar or a party where you may not even remember who was involved, let alone if you wore a condom.
I know how it goes – I lost my virginity at 14. There was alcohol involved and it wasn’t an experience I enjoyed. I definitely didn’t rush out to repeat it for quite some time.
I have yet to see any of the young men who slept with Bonnie during Schoolies, Freshers’ Week or Spring Break come out of the woodwork to say they were exploited or they had a bad time.
Yes, she may be a little older than them at 25, but when I was 20 I had a 40-year-old boyfriend and no one called him a predator, so I don’t get the outrage.
For all the pearl-clutching headlines, I really don’t think she is doing anything wrong at all. She is a woman who is comfortable in her sexuality and she is expressing that.
Yes, she’s making money while doing it, but what her critics must remember is that by trying to shout her down they are just making her even richer.
Now, before I’m accused of something awful, let me make this clear. I am not telling my son to join the five-hour conga line of young men waiting to sleep with Bonnie in one of her OnlyFans videos.
First of all, he’s 16 – which, while the legal age of consent, makes him two years too young to have anything to do with Bonnie’s on-camera antics.
But if, at 18, he were to express an interest, I would make it very clear to him that he must not allow his face to be shown on camera – at all. That’s my one rule.
After all, we know there is a stigma attached to the adult industry and I would hate for it to come back to bite him years later.
I would tell him to wear a balaclava or only consent to acts that didn’t show his face.
But if he, or another young man, wanted to sleep with a woman like Bonnie without cameras on, I would totally understand why. After all, she’s a bit older, sexually liberated and undeniably gorgeous.
In my mind, she is the sort of woman any man learning the ropes of love would be thrilled to sleep with. They would be thanking their lucky stars.
Right now, I don’t think my son has ever snogged a girl and he seems to spend more time at home than out socialising. Perhaps I should give Bonnie a call…
- Molly Manning is a 49-year-old former Pilates instructor who recently joined OnlyFans
